It is common knowledge that women definitely have a harder time climaxing than men. For a lot of women, the orgasm is like a mythical concept that is talked about often, but probably isn’t real for them because they don’t really know what it feels like. Before men go blaming themselves though, it’s important to remember that sex is a mental and a physical act combined for women, and the mental state plays a huge part in how enjoyable sex is. Men are certainly lucky that the physical stimulation can be enough to get them going, but it just isn’t that easy with women. This means that a large number of women feel like they have to fake an orgasm in bed. This isn’t to say that men don’t fake orgasms, of course. A study conducted by the University of Kansas found that more than 3 out of every 4 women have faked an orgasm at least once in their life, while 41% of men reported that they’ve faked orgasms too. So since both parties tend to do this once in a while, it shouldn’t be that big of a deal. However, as we can see, more women fake orgasms than men. Not all of them are because the male is bad in bed though. Here are some reasons why, and maybe this can get you and your partner talking for a better sex life for the both of you:
1. Pleasing The Partner
The most common reason women fake orgasms is to please their partner. Since it can be extremely difficult to reach climax for women, they might feel like they’re killing the mood for their partner. Moreover, telling their partner that they’re not able to orgasm can also make the partner insecure about their ability in bed even though that might not be the factor. Since sex is often about the other person, faking an orgasm is one way to make the experience good for the partner.
2. Better Emotional Connection
When the sex is good, the relationship is great. A lot of women feel like if they tell the truth about not orgasming every time, it could put a dent in the relationship. Many men feel inadequate, which could lead to more tension in the relationship, but when they feel like they have a really great sex life, it builds better emotional intimacy. Women fake orgasms in an effort to maintain the emotional balance.
3. Insecurity
A lot of women also have trouble saying that they’re not enjoying the sex outright. Partners can think they’re doing something right but that might not be the case, and women don’t think they can be honest about what they feel. A lot of women are told incorrectly that being instructive or vocal about what men do in bed is a mood killer, and feel like they’re not allowed to say anything to spoil the moment.
4. Better Sex
Nobody wants to stop sex when it looks like the heat has reached its peak, and faking an orgasm adds more heat to make the entire session great. Making noises and body tremors can definitely spice things up in the bedroom, and the fake orgasm can be the cherry on top of a really great cake for a lot of men.
5. Not In The Mood
A lot of women are probably also not that into the sex as their male counterparts. They aren’t easily able to say “I don’t really enjoy this right now”, but feel like maybe the occasion called for it and they should go with the flow. However, like it’s said before, sex is also a mental and emotional thing for women, so if the mind isn’t really into it, neither is the body.
