If you are the one who perceives self-hurt as self-help, here are 10 powerful insights to help you step up and away from punishing feelings!
Truth wants you to know that it is never in your best interest to unconsciously suffer, no matter how inwardly convincing it may feel to you that you will be betraying yourself or someone else if you do not.
The only way that any suffering feeling can prove to you that you need it is to hypnotize you with a flood of itself. Step back from yourself. Learn instead to listen to the quiet stream of higher insight that runs softly through your true nature. It sees through sorrow. Let it show you that suffering proves nothing.
If you want to receive some special help for helping yourself escape yourself, always remember this key question: “If I am doing what I want to do, then how come it hurts me to do it?” The truth guarantees you will stop doing what you do not want to do once you know what you have been doing against yourself.
Here are ten powerful insights to snap the spell of suffering. As you read over each one, think about how you can use its insight the next time you are about to be washed away by any flood of painful thoughts or feelings. Welcome their higher influence into your life.
- Suffering does not prove that you know what it means to care about yourself or others. What it does prove is you have not seen through your own ideas about caring or you would not be so careless with yourself.
- Suffering does not prove that you are right. What it does prove is you do not really know right from wrong or you would not take your position of pain as your proof of point.
- Suffering does not prove that you are responsible. What it does prove is you have abandoned true self-responsibility or you would not treat yourself so badly.
- Suffering does not prove that you are important. What it does prove is you would rather feel like a “someone” who is miserable than be a “no one” who is free and quietly happy.
- Suffering does not prove that you are all alone in life. What it does prove is you prefer the company of unfriendly thoughts and feelings whose very nature is to isolate you from everything good.
- Suffering does not prove that the world is against you. What it does prove is you have taken sides with that which is against everything — including yourself.
- Suffering does not prove that you are real. What it does prove is you have identified with an agitated false feeling of life and confused it for the quiet fullness of real living.
- Suffering does not prove that someone else is wrong. What it does prove is you will go to any lengths, including self-destruction, to prove that you are right.
- Suffering does not prove that you are who you think you are. What it does prove is you do not know who you really are or you would never tolerate a suffering self as an identity.
- Suffering over your suffering does not prove you want to stop suffering. What it does prove is you are afraid of the end of suffering because you think the end of it means the end of you. It does not.
Excerpted from “The Secret of Letting Go” by Guy Finley, Llewellyn Worldwide Publishing.