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Letting Go Of Old Emotions To Pursue Real Happiness

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Holding on to grudges or regret or bottling away disappointment or anger is unhealthy. Letting go of negative emotions without confrontation slowly depletes your peace of mind. Address a letter to the person you’re mad at or a confidant or vent by talking to a friend. Identify emotions that surface. Else, tap on specific body points while reciting liberating lines to yourself with the Emotional Freedom Technique.

If you find yourself unhappy more often than you’d like, the culprit might be old emotions you haven’t resolved. If you want more happiness, it’s important to let go of old emotions. These can be regrets, disappointment or anger. Any negative emotion that continues to roll around in your mind, over and over again, isn’t healthy for your well-being.

Pent Up Emotions: A Negative Trait

Sometimes you’re not even aware as to what extent you’ve been holding on to these old hurts. You might have decided to just “move on” from a hurtful exchange or experience without completely processing the hurt or disappointment you suffered. This is usually the typical way of dealing with pain. We’re told to “get over it”, “man up”, or “stop whining”.

But when something hurts us deeply, it isn’t always easy to just let it go. Yes, we might move on in our life, but the hurt is still stored in our body and our cells.

Any unresolved emotion stays in our body until we’re able to process it. These emotions can eat away at our peace of mind even causing depression. They’ve also been shown to impact our health negatively. All great reasons to explore any emotions we might be holding on to.

Identifying And Dealing With Old Anger

If you aren’t sure if you’ve completely let go of a past incident, or the accompanying emotions, you might want to explore them further. But, how do you identify them? Here are a few steps to dealing with pent up anger:

  • One way is to write about it. Sit down and compose a letter or email to the person, telling them how you felt. Or you could write an email to a friend you’d consider telling this to.
  • You don’t need to send the email, but compose it as if you were going to. Just writing about it can help bring up any emotions you’re still storing. As you write, see if any emotions do come up. If so, take note of them.
  • You can write them down on a separate piece of paper to work with later.
  • A second way would be to talk to a friend about what happened.
  • As the emotions surface, again, take note of them so they can be resolved.

Emotional Freedom Technique

Another way to process past hurts or emotions is to use EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique. You would do this while you talk about the incident. Any remaining emotions generally pop up, even ones you weren’t aware of. You might already know what some of them are, but didn’t realize they still feel as intense as they do.

This means they’re still active and need to be dealt with. Any time negative emotions are felt, EFT is an excellent way to lower their intensity and get rid of them completely.

Below I’ve given some examples for tapping on releasing old emotions. This is a general overview. The most success is achieved by being specific to your circumstances. The more specific, the better the result.

Beginning with the setup phrase, – which states the problem, tap on the karate point while saying the following phrases:

  • Even though I have these unresolved feelings about …… (Insert a name or event), I know my feelings are valid.
  • Even though I was hurt over this incident, I accept myself and have decided it’s time to let these emotions go
  • Even though I suffered from this, I honor my feelings and I’m letting them go for my own good.

Now for the tapping rounds.

Tap on each point below while saying the accompanying phrases:

  1. Eyebrow: All of this hurt and these unresolved feelings
  2. Side of the eye: I’d like to let them go
  3. Under the eye: I’m not sure I can, or that I want to
  4. Under the nose: I know these emotions aren’t good for me. Maybe it’s time I considered letting them go
  5. Collarbone: All these remaining feelings. It’s time to let them go
  6. Under the arm: I’m letting them go because my happiness and health are worth it
  7. Liver point: All these emotions. They’re moving out of my body now
  8. Top of the head: All these old emotions. I’m letting them go and that feels right.

If you feel resistance as you tap, you can do another round with phrases such as, “I really don’t want to let them go. I was hurt very badly.

I was disappointed and I don’t want to let them go. But a part of me knows I’m better off getting rid of them. Maybe I can let them go a little at a time. Maybe I can let them move out gently.”

After doing these rounds, you should feel some relief. If you do find extreme resistance, it might be something you’d want to work on with an EFT professional.

Many times it’s easier for an outsider to help sort out and resolve challenging emotions, especially if they’ve been there for a while. Once you’ve felt some relief, it’s time to go to the next round:

  1. Eyebrow: Now that I’m feeling some relief, I choose to let all of these feelings go completely
  2. Side of the eye: It’s time to let them all go and I choose to do that now. I’m letting all of these old, unneeded emotions go and that feels great.
  3. Under the eye: All of these emotions. I’m grateful I discovered them and that they’ve moving out.
  4. Under the nose: Any remaining emotions – they’re moving out now.
  5. Collarbone: I now choose to allow happiness into my body
  6. Under the arm: I’m letting in happiness and contentment
  7. Liver point: I choose to feel relief and happiness and I allow those feelings to build within me
  8. Top of the head: These feelings of happiness.They’re building in me now and that feels right.

By adding in a round of gratitude and positive emotions, it helps to bring in patterns of happiness and contentment. Once you practice these patterns of allowing in happiness, it’s easier to experience them. You’ll find yourself noticing them more and more.

  1. Eyebrow: I’m so grateful I finally let these feelings go
  2. Side of the eye: Now that I’ve let them go, I have more room for happiness and contentment
  3. Under the eye: I choose to feel more gratitude, happiness, and contentment
  4. Under the nose: I’m grateful for the ease I’m feeling
  5. Collarbone: I’m letting in happiness
  6. Under the arm: I’m letting in contentment
  7. Liver point: I’m feeling better already
  8. Top of the head: I choose happiness, contentment, and gratitude

It’s normal to feel emotions. The idea here is to experience them, process them, and then let them go so you can move forward in your life with ease and happiness.

Sumi Jones
Expert

I've been working in this field for over 12 yrs. I help people get fully in touch with who they are and to achieve their goals in life. I work with individuals who have an active interest in improving their lives and who take responsibility for their growth and happiness. I'm blessed to have intuitive guidance for my sessions which allows them to quickly move blocks, beliefs, or patterns which have kept people from being the best they can be. I'm grateful for all of the amazing clients I've had the privilege to work with over the years.

Sumi Jones
Expert

I've been working in this field for over 12 yrs. I help people get fully in touch with who they are and to achieve their goals in life. I work with individuals who have an active interest in improving their lives and who take responsibility for their growth and happiness. I'm blessed to have intuitive guidance for my sessions which allows them to quickly move blocks, beliefs, or patterns which have kept people from being the best they can be. I'm grateful for all of the amazing clients I've had the privilege to work with over the years.

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