Unintentionally, worrying will only exacerbate the suffering experienced by your loved one. You will only be providing a stronger foundation for their pain. Instead of dragging yourself down into the pit they have fallen into by worrying yourself, remind them of their strength and skills that will help lift them out of their predicament. Reflect confidence, belief, and optimism to help them rise above their sorrows.
Sometimes life events – some close and some very far away – could have us really feeling helpless and worried. “Helpless” and “worried” don’t play nice together and could lead to overwhelm.
This is exactly how I feel when someone I know is depressed, in pain, or suffering from some event. (This is even how I feel when it is someone I don’t know is in depression, in pain or suffering.)
In the world, there are many people suffering 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so then, what do we do?
What You Can Do
There are two important things that you are not helpless about. And if you focused on these, you wouldn’t feel so worried and helpless and you would contribute to making this world a better place:
- How to think about it
- What to do about it
In today’s episode, I address the second one and answer the question on how to be truly helpful to other people who are suffering.
Learn how to free yourself and your loved one from the pain! Focus on their awesome skills and reflect them back to them.
Lift Everyone Out Of Their Pain
Everyone suffers. That’s life. But people survive and keep going. What helps them to move on from life’s tragedies is connection to their skills and abilities. You can help by noticing these and sharing your observations! This will help them connect and build confidence in themselves.