All that you think is imperfect in you is what actually make you unique and lovable. When you embrace your imperfections and open up to the world, you help your partner show their true self and love you for who you are. If you want full and lasting love, don't be judgmental about yourself and your partner, love each other's uniqueness, and cherish the differences between the two of you.
Your perfect imperfections are just that — perfect! They make you unique and they make you lovable.
Embrace Your Uniqueness
They’re exactly what another person finds attractive, appealing, and lovable. If we were all the same, we’d end up bored with one another. It’s in learning to love and embrace our own uniqueness as well as that of our partner’s that leads to full and lasting love.
Sometimes, these differences can lead to disagreements and even annoyances. But as you learn to understand and embrace these differences, it expands your ability to love the person you’re with. It not only expands your relationship but also your ability to love.
To Love Better, Be Yourself
To do this, you have to be willing to take the chance of being yourself — showing others your imperfections. Remember, your perfect imperfections are just that — perfect for who you are in the world.
When you’re fully you, all of the things that make you unique come out. It means letting go of any judgments you might have, not only about yourself but also about your partner. It’s a process and takes time. The payoff though, is deep and lasting love.
Let Your True Self Shine
When you allow your true self to shine, you give the world a glimpse of your talent, your uniqueness, and what is different about you. In a world where so many things are the same, it’s a breath of fresh air.
It also gives other people in your life not only a great example but also permission to be themselves.
Dare to be you. You’ll be surprised at the results.
Your Imperfections Make You Interesting
Think about the times you’ve met someone who has a career or background that’s completely different from anyone you’ve ever met. Don’t you find this person intriguing and interesting?
They have unique experiences you can learn about. The very idea that they’ve been or done something you aren’t familiar with makes them interesting!
People are forever reading about celebrities and what they’re doing in their lives. This fascination, again, stems from the fact that they’re different than most people. Many of them have quirks that people find attractive. They have learned to embrace who they are and even capitalize on it.
When you take the chance to show yourself, people feel how genuine you are. There’s a magnetism to it. And allowing your spouse to see this side of you gives them the opportunity to love you for who you really are.
How To Grow In Love
In their book Be Loved For Who You Really Are Judith Sherven and her husband, Jim Sniechowski, explore how our differences add to our relationships — making them fuller.
They discuss the four stages of love, from the “honeymoon” phase to the second and third stages where challenges and differences come up.
They give you a blueprint on what to look for and how to navigate through these challenging stages. You learn to love your partner for all of their uniqueness.
Finally, if you grow and work through the second and third stage, you reach the fourth and final phase, which is one of a full and lasting love and also includes the spark and freshness of the “honeymoon” phase.
At this stage though, it also includes the depth of all aspects of love, allowing you to be loved for who you are.
So go ahead. Embrace your perfect imperfections and show the world and the people around your unique self.