Sometimes, you forget who you truly are or what you want to become and act in a contrary manner. Chaos ensues, and you are left ill-equipped to deal with adversities in life. Write out a contract of individuality to know yourself, your values, beliefs, goals, life purpose, uniqueness, and ambitions. Choose this way to reinvent and honor yourself, handle life better, and appreciate others.
My life has always been being “one of the crowd.” It was a comfortable life … but now everything seems to be in chaos. How do I handle this?
Out of Control
Dear Out of Control,
There are times when, I am sure, we wish to run away from change, from the upheaval and the stress that it may cause us to endure.
But the biggest challenge in our life is in discovering and honoring who we really are in a world whose persistence is to make you like everyone else.
And it is through the means of change that our beliefs and unresolved emotional issues are challenged, reviewed, and chosen for their appropriateness.
Know Who You Really Are
Our journey is a “remembering” that we need to be who we are and act from who we know we are; we need not be dependent on someone else’s conception. Do we dare take the risk of honoring that?
Your beliefs represent the inner core of who, what, and where you really are. This is what you stand for, strive to become, and acknowledge as what you are. This is the union of the personality (little you) and your higher self (large YOU).
The time(s) that you go against your conscience/beliefs, you experience an agitation or inner turmoil.
Change, or what may appear as chaos, enters your life when you no longer demonstrate who you really are or are going in a direction away from who you always desired to be.
The pressure to be in alignment with what you know to be your core beliefs now becomes the dominant focus in each of your life experiences and relationships.
When you no longer reflect the real you, when your actions do not represent the true who, what, and where of you, the intensity surfaces in your life to correct that picture.
Draft A Contract Of Individuality
A contract of individuality may be used to define and assist in maintaining the target for your priorities, goals, and intentions and, secondly, as a commitment of your standards of integrity.
In the business world, this is referred to as a mission statement.
It is said that you cannot reach a target unless you have a target. Once this is identified, your life becomes easier and more controllable, and you can make the necessary day-to-day and long-term decisions, as the basis of all of your decisions is outlined in the contract.
The second purpose, that of making a commitment to acknowledge your standards of integrity, is as critical to a successful existence as the target. Your integrity represents the inner core, the essence of who, what, and where you really are.
The contract must be in writing — making it a tangible and sincere commitment with your self and establishing the partnership between your self and your higher self.
The following questions are usually answered in this contract, although you may also use a special poem, credo, or passage that represents “what you are all about”:
- A brief description, term, or word of who you are
- A vision of what you want to become
- The philosophies and values that are important to you
- Your goals and purpose in life
- What distinguishes you from others
This ongoing journey into our spiritual evolution focuses on honoring, acknowledging, and reinventing who we really are. Only when we love ourselves unconditionally can we ever expect to accept and respect the feelings of others.